Finding the right one-
It is three am, pouring down rain and your car just konked out. Who do you call? And why?(Your parents are out of town.) The answer to that question should tell you a lot. If it isn't your boyfriend / fiance' than you need to rethink a lot of things.
If he is not willing to come out at three am to help you, what is he going to do when the baby is crying her heart out in the middle of the night.
Is he the type that would get up and help you out? No. Then you are going to be stuck doing a lot of things on your own. Just realize that but also realize that marriage is a partnership, you help out each other. Sometimes it is not the easiest thing to do but that is what makes a partnership survive. Think about it.